The 1 Reason You Should Love Tough Times

A lot of clients come to me because of physical injuries or other mental setbacks in their lives, like rocky breakups. They’ve fallen off their exercise programs or have forgotten what it was like to feel good and look good. It’s difficult to see people struggling through tough times, but I have to be honest—sometimes I’m sort of glad that they’re going through a rough patch. Why?

“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.”

—C.S. Lewis

Because I know that the toughest times often lead to the greatest growth. After all, there have been a LOT of times in my life where I’ve questioned myself over and over and over, and almost let life get me down.

Leaving My Comfort Zone

I left my home state of Alabama at 18 to start over in another state… all alone. It was terrifying, and that was just the first of many scary steps. Soon after, I moved to New York with just a bag of clothes—no savings, no job. I worked hard every day to make a living as a professional dancer and studied as much Pilates, anatomy, and movement therapy as I could.

And then I became a single mother.

Taking a Chance

Having a child changed my life. I was no longer just responsible for myself! But even with the extra challenge, I refused to give up on my career dreams of dancing and helping others to feel their best. I ended up in L.A. with my son in one arm and some clothing, books, and toys in the other… and in my mind were a million doubts about whether I was doing the right thing for my child.

After all, I’m a self-employed entrepreneur, which means zero financial security. I constantly doubted myself. “How could I ever believe that I could build my dream life out here? Who did I think I was?”

Overcoming the Doubts

After a long year of struggling in L.A., I can safely say that the move was the right decision for me and my son. Things are easier, I love my clients and what I do every day, and some of the doubts have gone away.

It’s all because I kept pushing every day and learned that I’m capable of things I’d never imagined. Every single step I took, from leaving Alabama as a young girl to constantly going out of my comfort zone in New York, helped me become strong enough to endure the last year. When life knocked me down, I got up and got moving with my body and my mind.

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”

—Confucius

Now when my clients come in, a little battered from life, I know what they’re going through. I can honestly tell them that it’s going to be okay, and then use my talent and passion for movement to help them get back on track mentally and physically. Because one tough spot in life doesn’t define you. Only you can do that.